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“WHAT DO YOU BELIEVE IS TRUE BUT MOST PEOPLE DON’T AGREE WITH?”
I don’t have a clue! I believe it is because of my persistent thinking, which doesn’t quit reminding me that there are few things I can think of that are unique. Each idea I ever had, each theory I ever came up with, was always followed by the annoying realization that someone else had already thought of that (which is a bit overwhelming and seems to bring down any urge to create something new).
But fine, since the artist doesn’t fear exaggeration, the irrational metaphor, or the unstable affirmation, I will shut down the little annoying engineer inside myself and try to draft something that, in fact, I believe is true – and not only unpopular but also, I believe, profoundly groundbreaking. I mean, if we lived accordingly with this theory, any slander and impropriety towards others should always be ridiculed.
So, here it goes, my most recent mini-theory is fairly simple:
It is impossible not to love when you truly know someone. I repeat: It is impossible not to love when you truly know someone.
I really do believe this, and time has been proving me right. But how can it be impossible not to love someone? How can it be inevitable to love?
I mean love as in truly wishing the other well, as in having a sincere desire for the other to live well. And secondly, the key is in truly knowing, in fully grasping. What is needed to truly know someone, to truly grasp who the other is? Imagine A and B. How can A truly know B? I think there are only 3 necessary and sufficient conditions:
1. A cannot be deaf
By deafness, I don’t mean having a deficiency in the auditory channel. I mean being unable to give room, to let itself be touched by the other’s story, such centricity on the self that prevents all possibility for the other’s openness. In the end, what is needed is that A has already grabbed its ego and thrown it to its deserved place – the recycling bin. It’s not worth it to throw Ego in the waste bin, but rather to treat and take advantage of it for the good.
2. B cannot be mute
Once again, muteness goes beyond the physical limitations, and closer to the inability of exposing the true self. It is necessary that B knows itself and is willing to share its inner motivations, its story, its sadnesses, interests, the foundation to its opinions. In the end, that B is available to speak about itself, to open up.
3. A and B must interact
Of course it is impossible to truly, truly, truly know someone (even to entirely know your own self) but, the closer you are to understand the other, to comprehend his motivations, to dive into his story, his motivations, his struggles and his decisionin-making foundations, the closer you are to an impossible-not-to-love situation. (And, again, by love here I don’t mean to be passionate about him, to like him or even to agree with his way of behaving. I mean a sincere will for the good of the other). Therefore, it is needed that A and B interact, spend time with each other, for knowledge to substantiate.
And, after fulfilling these 3 conditions, tchanan! A now loves B!
Yeah yeah, this is all very beautiful, peace and love and etc,… But now, my little Manuel, tell me: are you saying that if I have the chance to truly know Trump it would be impossible for me not to love him? AHAHAHAH!
Certainly! If you are truly willing to listen to Donald Trump, to let his story entrench your interior; if Donald is truly willing to open up to you, to share his motivations and most profound feelings; and if both you and him are committed to communicating fluidly, in granting the time for mutual understanding to occur – then I confidently bet that it will be difficult for you not to sincerely wish him well, for you not to love Donald.
And all because you will understand him, apprehend him, and understand why he is the way he is.
Another version of this mini-theory is: you can only hate (not love at all) those whom you don’t know.
This also has many beautiful implications and could be the motto for anti-racist movements and so on.
Now, I would like to leave you with a question – are A’s deafness or B’s muteness innate characteristics of A and B? If so, this theory loses strength, because it becomes impossible to truly get to know someone. But it doesn’t make it false, as it doesn’t contradict the hypothesis that when you get to truly know someone, it is impossible not to love them.
At last, I leave a challenge for myself (and those who would like to accept it as well, go ahead!) – may I not be mute, may I not be deaf, and may I wish to devote my time to get to know the other! My life (and, consequently, the world) will be much better, as I will look to those I least esteem with greater openness, more willing to actually get to know them.
Let’s get to truly know the other, and we will sincerely wish him well.